You can't change what has happened in your life but you can start to change to way you react to it. This is for YOU... for your own healing process. You can stay angry and bitter but it's not helping you. You can do the same things and get the same results. Or you can change the way you feel and what you do about it.
So the bottom line is... is it helping you?
Holding in anger, resentment and bitterness is like drinking poison and hoping that the other person dies. Scroll below and see which exercise speaks to you and can help you in moving your life forward again.
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Write it out and really get into it and then read it out loud 10 times.
Get a partner. You will each write out the most devastating thing in your life that you can't let go of. Really be detailed about it. Write down how it makes you feel, how it has affected your life, and what problems you have with the situation. Spend about 30 minutes on this if you have to. Now read the paper out loud to your partner … 10 times. I can pretty much guarantee that it won't have the meaning it had when you wrote it out by the end of the exercise.
When you are complete with the exercise have a burning ceremony. As you light the papers on fire, let them and the entire situation go forever up in smoke, leaving ashes to nourish the earth.
Sometimes you have to protect yourself first and not let people run all over you. You have to learn how to say no. The name of a good book is, Boundaries: Where You End and I Begin by Anne Katherine. It's a short, but effective little book.
This may be an arduous and long path, but when we are angry, we stay sick. When we overcome all those things in our lives which keep us from doing our life purpose we are freed.
The Forgiveness Tour
Don't know how to forgive? Try Reverend Bonnie Barnard's book on forgiveness - 'Forgive Your Way to Freedom" She founded the forgiveness tour in January of 2005 and went around the country for a year teaching forgiveness.
Consistent exercise is great for health and for defusing anger and stress. Walking is excellent for every blood type!
Forgive yourself so you can forgive others
In the past we may have acted in anger because we were really angry with ourselves . . . mostly for not being able to stand up for my boundaries and say "no" to things that I didn't want to do. When you focus on loving yourself and doing your life purpose, you finally realize that every job is suited perfectly for someone. It may not be you, but there is someone out there that would be happy to do what you don't want to do. When you know your limitations and strengths, you are able to contribute to the world and your relationships in a bigger way . . . and you are happier for it.
Try some gentle hypnotherapy
It can work wonders. Hypnotherapy sessions are nurturing and one on one designed for you and to help you move forward. Contact me if you have any questions through my contact page.
"To forgive means that we give over one perspective for another. We relinquish a contracted viewpoint for a more expansive one. We transform judgment, anger, and hurt - all the feelings that keep us feeling separate from one another - into ones that make us feel connected. Forgiveness doesn't mean you deny the hurt or become a doormat. But it does mean that beyond the hurt, we affirm that a higher perspective exists, even if we cannot see it right now."
Mary Manin Morrissey